There once was a woman who had several children and provided for all of them without her sparkling smile leaving her face. While preparing her daily organic gourmet meals and perfect chocolate chip cookies (just in time for her children coming home from school) her apron cinched her waist while displaying her symmetrical form. Even though her body looks effortlessly flawless, she'll let you know her daily runs are the true reason for her slender form--that and her eight glasses of water a day as well as all the fruits and veggies she snacks on. She never passes on a bake sale but never over indulges on any treat.
You never see her sweat. She could run a marathon or face a firing squad without a hair falling out of place.
Her children are so well behaved, they could teach finishing school and their idea of rebellion is vacuuming the carpet in diagonal strokes.
Her wardrobe reflects current fashion without making her look like she's trying too hard or trying to hide her true age.
Her hair is coiffed in a style that is effortless but stylish and flattering.
Unrealistic as it seems, she never needs help, never takes a break, never waivers in her convictions or loyalties She's caring, compassionate, vivacious, energetic, Perfect!
She exposes all your insecurities in blinding light. Everything you struggle with she masters with ease and excels through any turbulence.
She turns you into a green-eyed monster.
She's Supermom! (queue the brass band and the fireworks announcing her arrival)
She can't be real...oh, wait, she's not...she's a myth.
Yes, there are real women who seem super human in the mom department, but they are an exception. Even those who exceed common conceptions of motherhood, fail in other areas.
I've aspired to be the mythical supermom, and even my short experience has shown failures to live up to those mythical expectations.
If we as mothers are setting ourselves up for failure by believing this myth of motherhood is ideal, what image of motherhood should we embrace rather than this myth?
I'm going to be working through different areas of the Supermom Myth in coming posts. If you have stories or insights
, please share as this is a complicated issue. There are the pressures from society, from yourself, from family. Some are valid, some are not. I am personally working through my idea of the mom I want to be and this will be one of my outlets to sort this out.